Sida aad la qabsato dhaqan cusub, laga yaabaa in aad maraan waqtiyo kala duwan, halkaas oo aad ka dareento siyaabo kala duwan. Qayb ka mid ah habka loo yaqaan “naxdinta dhaqameed.” Fahamka saabsan naxdinta dhaqameed kaa caawin doona inaad aqbasho dareenka oo aad u fudud si ay ula qabsadaan.
As you adjust to a new culture, you may go through different periods where you feel different ways. Part of the process is known as “culture shock.” Understanding about culture shock will help you accept the feelings and make it easier to adjust.
Sawirka kor ku xusan ayaa muujinaya sida ay dadku dareemaan sida ay maraan marxaladaha sixitaanka dhaqanka. Bal aynu eegno marxaladaha ku faahfaahsan.
The picture above shows how people feel as they go through the stages of cultural adjustment. Let’s look at the stages in more detail.
1. wajiga Malabka The
1. The honeymoon phase
Marka ugu horaysa ee aad timaado USA, laga yaabaa in aad dareento faraxsanahay waana ku faraxsanahay. Waxaa laga yaabaa in badan oo gool iyo filashooyinka waxa dhici doona in aad nolol cusub. Waxaa hubaal in aad sugayeen inuu yimaado America muddo dheer. Waxaa laga yaabaa in aad maqashay waxyaabo badan oo weyn oo ku saabsan USA. Waxaad filan in aad si deg deg ah u heli doonaan shaqo wanaagsan, Guri fiican, iyo kasban Ingiriisi. Waxaa laga yaabaa inaad habdhiska, laakiin waxa aad u rajeyneynaa in wax walba oo cusub ee America.
When you first arrive in the USA, you may feel happy and excited. You may have lots of goals and expectations for what will happen in your new life. You have probably been waiting to come to America for a long time. You may have heard lots of great things about the USA. You expect that you will quickly get a good job, have a nice house, and earn English. You may be nervous, but you look forward to all the new things in America.
2. wajigii naxdinta dhaqameed The
2. The culture shock phase
Inta lagu jiro muddada this, laga yaabaa in aad dareento kacsan iyo murugo. Waxaa laga yaabaa inaad bilowdo inaad carooto. Waxaa laga yaabaa inaad dareentid cabsi ama dhab ahaantii ka maqnaan dalkaagii hooyo.
During this time period, you may start to feel upset and sad. You may start to feel angry. You might feel scared or really miss your home country.
Haddii aadan ku hadlin Ingiriis, wajigii naxdinta dhaqameed ku socon karaa wakhti dheer ah. Si ay kuu caawiyaan inta lagu jiro waqtigan, waa in aad isku daydo in ay la kulmaan qaxootiga kale ee ka dhaqanka iyo ka heli dukaamo iibiya cuntada dhaqanka.
If you do not speak English, the culture shock phase can last a long time. To help you during this time, you should try to meet other refugees from your culture and find stores that sell your traditional food.
Calaamadaha shoog dhaqanka waxaa ka mid ah:
Signs of culture shock include:
- bilaa rajo
- fekerayo in wax walba waa wasakh
- dareen cabsan
- aad u badan oo hurda
- thinking that everything is dirty
- feeling afraid
- sleeping too much
Waxaa laga yaabaa inaad u malaynayso in dhaqanka American waa cabsi ama in aadan jeclaan wax ku saabsan America. Fadlan garanaynaa kani inuu waji dhexeeya dhammaan dadka ku nool dhaqamada cusub. Ugu dambayntii, inaad wajiga labaad dhaqaaqi doono. Haddii aadan ka guurto on, oo weli aad dareento murugo ama xanaaq, laga yaabaa in aad u baahan tahay qaar ka mid ah caawimo dheeraad ah, oo waa inaad la hadashaa shaqaalaha kiiskaaga ku saabsan. Qaxooti ahaan, aad soo maray waxyaalo badan oo adag oo ay tahay oo dhan xaq u baahan caawimo dheeraad ah.
You may start to think that American culture is terrible or that you do not like anything about America. Please know that this is a common phase for all people living in new cultures. Eventually, you will move to the next phase. If you do not move on, and you still feel sad or angry, you may need some extra help, and you should talk to your caseworker about it. As a refugee, you have been through many hard things and it is all right to need extra help.
3. wajiga qabsiga The
3. The adjustment phase
Muddo ka dib, aad rajeynayaa dhaqaaqi doono ee la soo dhaafay wajigii naxdinta dhaqameed iyo aad bilaabi doonaan in ay la qabsato nolosha Maraykanka. Waxaad bilaabi si ay u fahmaan xaqiiqada dhabta ah ee nolosha noqon doonaa sida dal cusub. Waxaad go'aansan kartaa inaad qaadato shaqo lacag yar sababtoo ah waxa ay kaa caawin doontaa in aad qoyska. Waxaad bilaabi doonaan in ay bartaan Ingiriisi. Waxaad u badan tahay in laga bilaabo si ay leeyihiin joogtada ah. Life bilaabmaa si ay u dareemaan caadiga ah.
After some time, you will hopefully move past the culture shock phase and you will begin to adjust to life in the USA. You start to understand the reality of what life will be like in a new country. You may decide to take a low-paying job because it will help your family. You will begin to learn English. You are probably starting to have a routine. Life begins to feel normal.
Mid ka mid ah tartan caadi ah inta lagu jiro waqtigan aan ku jirno waa in carruurtaada laga yaabaa in nolosha USA si deg deg ah in ka badan aad tahay hagaajinta. Tani waa mid caadi ah, laakiin waxaa jira waxyaabo aad samayn karto si ay u caawiyaan caruurta aad joogto xiran dhaqanka gurigaaga.
One common challenge during this time period is that your children may be adjusting to life in the USA more quickly than you are. This is very common, but there are things you can do to help your children stay connected to your home culture.
4. wajiga qabsashada
4. The integration phase
Tani waa wajiga ugu danbeeya ee la qabsiga dhaqanka. Inta lagu jiro wakhtigan, America bilaabi doonaa si ay u dareemaan sida guriga. Waxaad bilaabi doonaa si ay u dareemaan sida aad halkan iska leh. Waxaad hadda qasan kartaa qaybo ka mid ah dhaqanka American leh qaybo ka mid ah dhaqanka. Waxaa laga yaabaa in aad wax run ahaantii sida oo ku saabsan Mareykanka iyo wax aad runtii maal ka dalkaaga hooyo. Waxaad si fudud u eegi kartaa nolol maalmeedkaaga ee dalka Mareykanka. laga yaabaa in aad leedahay saaxiibo American qaar ka mid ah iyo qaar ka mid ah asxaabta ayaa sidoo kale soo galootiga iyo qaxootiga. Hadda waa waqtiga si ay u sii wanaajiyo waxbarashada. Waxaad dooran kartaa in aad noqoto muwaadin American.
This is the final phase of cultural adjustment. During this time, America will begin to feel like home. You will start to feel like you belong here. You can now mix parts of American culture with parts of your culture. There may be things you really like about the United States and things you really treasure from your home country. You can easily navigate your daily life in the United States. You probably have some American friends and some friends who are also immigrants and refugees. Now is the time to continue to improve your education. You may choose to become an American citizen.